MonthFebruary 2016

Heal your sensitivity

When someone says something and you feel incredibly sensitive is because you have wound within (mostly insecurities) and you feel the pain when people reach it.. so how do you conclude this? Is it their fault or yours?

Scenario: When you are insecure about something, you come up with justifying conclusions and choose to believe it’s all gone and good.. But in real it’s just a cover-up. Whenever someone proves you wrong and make you realize it’s still in there… They are instantly activating your defense system.

As long as you don’t heal it… You are exposing yourself to pain that doesn’t even make sense most of the time.

Don’t focus on staying away from people that play with your wounds. Put yourself around them often to test where you stand. These people are not threats… They are your solution…they make you become stronger.

Mistake #54678

Just having this one quality called “learning from your mistakes” makes you more comfortable making mistakes..turns out you try out a lot of new things comfortably..which increases the possibility of you winning big time with so much experience.

On the other hand…people who doesn’t have this quality are always scared of making mistakes and being judged by others…will tend not to tey new things…almost always ends up a loser.

Symptoms: Blaming others when things go wrong…trying to get credits unnecessarily…feeling low frequently…bitching about people who tries… Not approving when people around you come up with possible solutions to a problem.

Conclusion: people judging that you are an ass is a secondary problem. The primary problem is you are putting a stop on yourself from becoming big. It’s a pity that you do all this thinking you are moving ahead to achieve greatness…but in reality mediocrity will become your life.

Upgrading Money Framework Inside your Head

I’m into affiliate marketing for 5 years now but I’m not rich yet! Over these past 5 years I have procured so much knowledge about how to make money online. I have had successful campaigns once in a while that kept me afloat for 5 years but nothing crazy to turn my life around. Meanwhile a lot of affiliate marketing friends are making shit tons of money and I’m nowhere near to what they have achieved. When I think about it, it is difficult to swallow…though i work on super potential projects I always end up losing interest after a while and jump onto something new and more exciting.

I have to at least figure out what’s wrong and how it can be fixed. Jumping onto one after the other is not a bad trait to have. It’s my personality..but I’m sure I can figure out a way to handle it. Well..if that’s not the real issue what else is stopping me!? It took me a while to spot the real enemy “Mediocre Thinking”. I was born into a middle class family and those lessons I kept getting when it comes to finance is pure Mediocrity.

Let’s discuss a scenario..

3 equally creative kids…one is born into a poor family.. One into a middle class.. and the last one into a wealthy family. How do you think these kids are going to evolve in next 15 years?!

Each of these kids are going to get different opportunities and exposure. It is like three layers in society..layer 3 is poor, layer 2 middle class and 1 is wealthy. People that belongs to each layer builds totally different financial framework (how they think about money) from each other. The kid from middle class is taught different lessons about money than what the rich kid is being taught.

Kids from middle class like me have this certain framework full of restrictions inside their head that gives them limiting thoughts about how not to take risks with money..how to always save and lead a mediocre life. If you are stuck into that, achieving great results will always remain a dream. With so much experience and talent the middle class kid is making decent money..meanwhile guys with little to no talent makes 3-5 times more money than he makes. Sounds unfair, but it is not.

When you think making 50k a month is awesome and you can lead a happy life with it…that is going to influence everything you want to build around yourself. I’m not saying you cannot live an happy life with 50k a month. But what if you have so much potential and your beliefs about money is limiting yourself from becoming real big? Now that sounds like a big problem to me. Thinking about making 200k a month actually make them feel uncomfortable because they have grown into this mediocre beliefs about money.

I so badly needed to build this money framework from the scratch so I can see things beyond and build a financially successful life. Instead of thinking how I can plan and spend my monthly salary 50k..I started thinking about what are all my monthly needs and how much it’s gonna cost…which comes up to 200k now that changes everything… From my thought process to the kind of action I put in…everything is different.

When you can look at your future and see how big of a life you desire to live…that alters your journey accordingly. It’s like you are getting an upgrade. This talented guy from middle class with an upgraded financial framework can easily push away untalented guys from layer 1 and move onto the topmost part of the layer. If you want to make a lot of money and achieve great things in life, you have to change your perspectives on how you think about money.

This not only applies to money… It applies to almost everything. One more thing that comes to my mind instantly is getting a girlfriend.

I’m not rich yet… At least I’m on the right track!

Am I really lazy?

For a very long time I believed I’m just being plain lazy and that’s what is standing in my way of becoming super successful online entrepreneur!

When I work, I work like a crazy workaholic..but I when I don’t, I while away time doing nothing and feeling guilty for being such a loser.

Let me give you an example..one fine morning i decide to sign up for swimming..I’m consistent visiting the place for at least a week or two..but soon I stop visiting the pool and back to feeling guilty for not being consistent, also paying a hefty fee for the membership that just went for nothing. Are you able to relate to this scenario?

So my conclusions about this whole scenario..

I’m being lazy
I’m being inconsistent
I start things but never complete it

These conclusions are negatively influencing me on everything. I’m losing respect for myself.

What’s the real issue? I absolutely love swimming or at least being in water. The only problem I have is travelling! It takes about close to an hour to reach this place. So the one thing that fuel my laziness is travel time! If i can some how eliminate or figure out a way to deal with this one issue..I can be totally be consistent.

I figured out similar hurdles ruining my productivity at work. I realized I’m not being lazy..I’m just stuck or having a creative blockage. Spotting issues and eliminating them is transforming me from being lazy to hyper productive person!

Spot rotten eggs quickly

Make situations uncomfortable or challenging for people you are associated with and learn quickly what they really are deep down..so you don’t get surprised after it’s too late!

Well..spot your rotten eggs as well. Put yourself in uncomfortable situations as often..monitor yourself without justifying your actions and spot rotten eggs if there is any! This will sure speedup your evolving process.

Irrational fear – kick them in the nuts

Looking back and I see I have been manipulated a lot by this one sucker! Riding under a bridge is fearsome.. Omg this bridge is gonna fall on my head anytime let’s speed up! Magically my bus ticket is gonna disappear so let me keep checking it once in a while…and a loads of such silly craps.

Irrational fear is not bad until its percentage remains small. Something like our greenhouse gas layer…as far as it remains thick enough for gasses and heat to enter our atmosphere and reflected back into space, everything is good. What happens when the heat that got inside our atmosphere gets trapped? That’s what exactly happens when we send too much carbondioxide making the ozone thicker so heat gets trapped and we are fucked once and for all. Global warming.

It is one of our primal instincts which helped us to be safe from predators and evolve. Your fear helps you come up with solutions to solve real problems. But when this irrational fear gets out of control that keeps you crippled. You can make it work for you or against you! It’s all about how you tame it.

You should check out some of these products available in the market supporting people’s irrational fear! I keep wondering why do they even need this!

Back to my story..I had this one big layer of irrational fear stacked on me for years. All those philosophies and solutions i cooked up were simply based on it. Problems were unnecessarily magnified or it didn’t matter at all. Eliminating this layer or bringing it under control gave me a new perspective about things and my philosophies got redefined quickly.

Every time I’m riding I have 1% chances of getting into an accident (I’m a decent rider)…we have this strict rules about wearing helmet..and i hate to wear one. Whenever I ride without an helmet I get super conscious. Now my chances of getting into an accident has suddenly become 2%! Imagine, a guy who checks his bus ticket often, how conscious will he be not to get caught by a traffic police?

I started thinking about what’s going to happen when i get caught? They take my license until I pay the fine in court or just have to pay him some bribe (I’m compromised I know), whatever it is i can handle it! Back to my 1%. The positive thing is I bought a new helmet and started wearing it.

Conquer your irrational fear! The more you run the more it chases you like a street dog. Most of the times you are magnifying and over complicating things. Movies you watch play a big role in feeding your brain with irrational fear about almost everything. Remember the effects you had after watching final destination?

Conquering your magnified fear can be personality altering.

The Hustle 2016

So I have come up with a well thought out daily routine for this year. Mostly focused on building new habits. Everytime I schedule something, I stick to the plan so tightly for few day and fall hard on my face soon. This has never worked for me like always! So this time I have a brand new approach for my new schedule.

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I’m not gonna care if I stick to the exact plan since day one. I’m starting with the ones I’m most comfortable and excited about. I have started reading…started swimming..sleeping well…slowly adapting healthy eating..well my work routine is fucked up but I’m not so worried or guilty about it. By the end of March if I can adapt to this laid out routine (at least a 75% of it) that will be an accomplishment.

Sticking to the routine so effortlessly – That’s what I aim to achieve. Habits.

Fighting creative blockage

If you are a creative person you know how hard it is when you fall into one of those creative block situation.

Well I found a new way to get out of it pretty soon (I’m still working on perfecting this method).

Just jump into a friends project and try to help him with his challenges… I prefer working in a situation where no one is expecting so much from me…that’s when I perform magic. So this scenario is ideal for me to reboot my creativity or confidence or momentum or whatever you call it!

Your friend will appreciate an unexpected new perspective from a creative friend and you suddenly feel cool with an overflowing momentum.

Doesn’t matter how often you fall it’s all about how quickly you get back on your feet.

Building foundation for a spectacular leap

When I become truly interested in a project and ready to be associated, the next question I get asked is how much do I charge for investing my time and expertise into their projects. Well…at this point I go blank and I simply didn’t know how much to charge…for a very long time!

I try to come up with a number which now I look back was insane! So I don’t have to pay rent and calculating my monthly bills and other miscellaneous expenses it comes around about 25k per month… So I felt like charging a 50k or maybe 75k was a reasonable sum.

That’s a mediocre perspective. I was brought up with so much irrational fear about money that how difficult it is to make money and how you should plan and save and save and other BS about money. I always had this insecurity when it comes to money (as I’m writing this, I still do have those fear though I have figured out which part of my financial senses needs to be rewired..and I’m working on it).

I had a conversation with my fiancee about our near future monthly expenses with a comfortable lifestyle…monthly rent in a decent apartment..utility bills.. Grocery bills..weekly dayout expenses all gathered up to a lakh rupees and another lakh in savings. So a total two lakh rupees sounded reasonable to us. Now I clearly know that’s my requirement and that’s the standard I need to be aiming at. I will not charge not even a penny less if I had to lend my time and expertise. I believe my actions will be automatically altered accordingly to achieve that standard.

Instead of planning a lifestyle with the paychecks u receive, I have decided to go the other way around. Suddenly I sense a huge shift in perspective.

Some basic disciplines and persistence (which again fall under discipline) making money is not that hard.

If you wanna make BIG LEAP you need to rewire your crippled internal beliefs about money to support a successful leap. With each such changes..you are maximising the probability of making a successful leap. I believe it is possible to believe your leap is going to be successful even before you start…with such confidence the entire leap will become so effortless and magical.

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